We’ve all said it.
“We need to take a trip together!”
It sounds great in the moment. Everyone agrees. Someone throws out a destination. Maybe a group text gets started.
And then life happens.
Work schedules don’t line up. Someone has a family commitment. Someone else isn’t sure about the budget. Before you know it, another year has gone by, and you’re still saying, “We really need to do that trip.”
After a fun ladies’ night out with friends recently, I started thinking about just how important that time together can be—and how much better it gets when you take it on the road.
I’ve planned quite a few trips for groups of women over the years, and they’ve looked very different. Some have been big bucket-list adventures. Others have involved nothing more strenuous than deciding which cocktail to order next.
That’s the beauty of a girls’ trip.
There’s no right way to do one.
Time Together Without Everyday Life Getting in the Way
We can see our friends regularly and still not really have uninterrupted time together.
At home, there are jobs, spouses, children, grandchildren, appointments, errands, phones buzzing, and all the other things competing for our attention.
Travel changes that.
Suddenly you’re having breakfast together, exploring somewhere new, lingering over dinner, laughing about something that happened earlier in the day, and having conversations you might never have had during a quick dinner back home.
You get to simply enjoy each other’s company.
And sometimes that’s reason enough to go.
The Trip Can Be About Something You Already Love
One of my favorite examples was a group of ladies I sent to Australia who built their January trip around the Australian Open since they were big tennis fans.
Seeing their photos from the stands reminded me of something I love about planning these trips: sometimes the best vacation starts with something you already enjoy doing together.
They had something they loved and wanted to experience together. Australia became the bigger adventure surrounding it.
That’s something I love about planning group travel. You don’t necessarily have to start by asking, “Where should we go?”
Sometimes the better question is:
“What would we love to do together?”
Maybe it’s tennis in Australia.
Maybe it’s food and wine.
Maybe it’s live music.
Maybe it’s beaches and sunshine.
Maybe it’s seeing a destination that’s been sitting on everyone’s bucket list.
Start there, and the destination often follows.
Sometimes You Just Need a Beach
I’ve also sent plenty of groups of women to the Caribbean, with the Dominican Republic being a particular favorite.
And I completely understand why.
An all-inclusive resort can make a girls’ getaway wonderfully easy. Once everyone arrives, there’s very little to think about beyond where you’re having dinner, whether you’re going to the beach or pool, and who’s ordering the next round.
For a group coming from different places, that simplicity can be a huge advantage.
Nobody has to cook. Nobody has to entertain. Nobody has to coordinate restaurant checks every night.
You can actually relax and enjoy being together.
You Don’t Have to Go Halfway Around the World
Girls’ trips don’t have to involve passports or long flights, either.
I’ve planned U.S. getaways for women celebrating birthdays, bachelorette weekends, and other special occasions.
Sometimes a few nights away is all you need.
That’s another reason I don’t think there’s a formula for the perfect girls’ trip. A weekend away with your best friends can be every bit as memorable as a two-week international adventure.
It’s about the people you’re traveling with and how you want that time together to feel.
Milestones Are Better With Friends
Birthdays. Bachelorettes. Retirement. A big anniversary of a friendship. A new chapter in life.
Sometimes there’s a reason for the trip.
And sometimes the reason is simply, “We’ve been talking about doing this forever.”
I think that counts, too.
As we get older, schedules don’t necessarily become easier. Children grow up, grandchildren arrive, careers change, people move, and suddenly getting five or six women in the same place at the same time requires the logistical skills of an air traffic controller.
Which brings me to something I’ve learned from planning these trips.
Getting Everyone to Commit May Be the Hardest Part
Picking a beautiful destination is usually easy.
Getting six people to agree on dates, budget, trip length, and what they actually want to do?
That’s where things can get interesting.
My biggest advice is to settle a few things before anyone starts searching online.
Agree on a realistic budget. Find dates that actually work. Decide how long everyone can be away. Talk about what kind of vacation you’re imagining.
And designate one person as the group’s main point of contact.
Otherwise, one person is looking at a luxury resort, another has found an Airbnb, somebody else wants a cruise, and your relaxing girls’ getaway has turned into a full-time job before anyone has left home.
That’s also one reason having a travel advisor coordinate the trip can be especially helpful. I can be the person keeping track of the moving pieces without one member of the group having to spend her entire vacation playing travel agent.
Because she deserves to enjoy the trip, too.
So, Send the Group Text
Maybe your girls’ trip is a long weekend in the U.S.
Maybe it’s an all-inclusive in the Caribbean.
Maybe you’re finally going big and heading to Australia.
The destination isn’t really the point.
It’s getting away from everyday life for a little while, reconnecting with women who matter to you, experiencing something together, laughing—a lot—and coming home with another collection of stories that belong to all of you.
So send the group text.
Pick some dates.
Start the conversation.
Because “We should take a girls’ trip someday” can be said for years.
Maybe it’s time to turn someday into an actual departure date.
Lisa Rossmeissl is the owner of Boomerang Escapes, a home-based agency located in Old Bridge, New Jersey with agents in TN, MS, and WI.
She has been a professional travel consultant since 2008 and specializes in Australia and the South Pacific. Australia, New Zealand, Tahiti, Fiji, and Cook Islands are among the specialist certificates she holds. Her agency’s focus is on creating custom itineraries with their client’s wants, desires, and budgets in mind. She and her planners believe in getting to know the traveler to ensure they have a vacation to remember. With each planner specializing in a different market area, Boomerang Escapes can offer a wide variety of leisure vacation planning.